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Just me being bitter and petty

December 21st, 2007 at 07:25 am

I was born on Christmas. It kinda sucks.

Throughout the year, my boss brings cakes and cookies and stuff in for people's birthdays, and usually goes out to lunch with them, but not for me. Today was most people's last day for the rest of the year, and no mention.

We used to have a snack day once a month at the place where I worked before, and it was for the birthdays in that month. Except December. It was cancelled during that month because there were already so many Christmas parties everyone was going to.

When I was in school, same thing. Kids got cupcakes on their birthday. I never got any. Kids got sleep overs for their birthday. I never got one. People suggest to celebrate on half birthdays, but hey, that is June 25, and we aren't in school then either, dummy. But the summer kids still got a party just for them.

Throughout the year, people ask me to help out with birthday stuff for other people, and I usually say no. They think it is strange. "I mean, everyone has a birthday, right? Everyone gets the same kind of party, right? We'll do it for you when it is your birthday! Oh wait, its on Christmas, isn't it? We don't work that whole week. Well, we'll remember and go out for you the week before." No you won't. Never happened before, and its not going to happen.

What the heck is wrong with me? I'm damned near 30 (you know, on Christmas) and I shouldn't get worked up over no one celebrating my birthday. I guess that is not true. My family does celebrate my birthday. After we open presents in the morning, and have lunch, I get sang to, a present, and a bunch of my sisters rolling their eyes because I'm taking the attention away from their kids. I've had a birthday pie before because we had so much cake for Christmas. And I don't even particularly like pie!

20 Responses to “Just me being bitter and petty”

  1. debtfreeme Says:
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    My ex boyfriend was born on Christmas Eve. he had the same problem, including getting half his presents wrapped in birthday wrap but still the same kinds of things and no party. He was 29 when we were dating and I got a bunch of friends up to Sacramento on the 23rd (best I could do) and threw him a surprise party. I also asked him if we could not decorate his house (kind of living together then) until midnight Christmas eve/day as I wanted to start a new tradition. When he came home from some last minute shopping that day he found the house only had birthday stuff around. We did the tree that night before we went to bed.

    to this day (ok three years but still) when we do our annual his birthday/my birthday calls (we broke up shortly after the holidays) he still mentions having his first real party at 29 and makes him a little chocked up. It is one of the best memories I have of our time together and it felt amazing to pull it off without him knowing. His new wife (yuck hate saying that word) doesn't do anything special for his day. It is nice hearing twice a year how much he now realizes he made a mistake.

    Also, my mom and sisters are only a couple days after Christmas, makes it a real challenge each year for a neat present and 3 days later another one.

  2. merch Says:
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    Happy upcoming Birthday!!!

    Personally, I'm not a big birthday person. Mind is always during memorial day weekend so no one is ever around. So I have my own tradition, I sit down by myself, grab a cigar, and some good boubon. Drink, smoke, watch the sunset, and reflect.

    One of my sons birthday is Halloween. All his friends are going to be excited about trick or treating.

    I think at the end of the day ... it is what it is. Just make the most of it and enjoy the day. Most people don't share their brthday with so many relatives every year. Smile

    And Happy Birthday!!!

  3. monkeymama Says:
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    Happy Happy Birthday!!!!!

    I know so many people born on Christmas (& most my family is December anyway) so I understand. It is so weird to me to celebrate summer birthdays now. I tell my kids they are really lucky they don't have December birthdays. & it is nice to spread out the gifts a little.

    Anyway, such is life. Stomp your feet and scream, and then forget about it. Not much you can do about it. (hugs)

  4. cptacek Says:
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    I know. This little melt down happens at least once every year during December. Pity party for me, and then I go on.

    I feel stupid every time I think about it, because, well, it is kinda stupid.

  5. Caoineag Says:
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    Im sorry that you have that problem. At my office, we just had pie (her request) for a December B-day. If we had a Christmas B-day, we would just celebrate in Jan (and we would because we are like that).

    I actually don't bother celebrating my birthday, but I can understand its important to some people. If you value something and no one respects that, it isn't stupid to be upset.

  6. miclason Says:
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    no, I think you're right to be upset...everyone has their own "special day"...you should, too...Dad's b-day was December 31...he got to pick the New Year's dinner and we got him presents...Dec 31 was always more about his b-day than about New year's...of course, it's more difficult on Xmas because EVERYone gets presents!!

    Happy Upcoming birthday to you!

  7. gruntina Says:
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    My Birthday is June 15th. when school is out and etc. but it often falls on the same weekend as Father's day so I hardly had anyone come to my parties growing up.

    However, I strongly believe that people do not know what you want unless you say something regardless when your birthday is on. I tell my husband I want a white rose and get taken out for an Ice-cream cone. (I am pretty simple).. but there has been some years I call up a group of friends and we go out for a fondue party if I am feeling rested enough for a social night. Other people are not going to make my events for me so I just plan away.

  8. cptacek Says:
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    Thanks for all your sympathy Smile I guess I really just wish that my family could separate the two in their minds. Like, we're having Christmas this year the weekend after. So, no one will even call me on my birthday because we aren't celebrating it then. Hello? The two are not the same. I am not the Christ child Smile

    And you are right. I would like my own special day. For someone to remember my birthday because they remember IT (and ME), not them be thinking about Christmas and then it dawns on them that, "hey, it's her birthday, isn't it?"

    And then I remember. Things could be worse. If this is all that is wrong with my life, I got a pretty sweet life, don't I? Wink

  9. Mr. Meager Says:
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    Sorry for your misfortune but I must say I envy you. I would love to have my bday come and go without anyone noticing. Just me and how I just care to make a big fuss out of it anymore.

  10. Ima saver Says:
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    Happy birthday, I am so old I don't even like birthdays anymore. I was born on thanksgiving day and my mother missed out on a really nice big meal that day!!

  11. pretty cheap jewelry Says:
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    Oh HAR HAR all these responses should be making this year at least a little better. Print them out and tape them to the bathroom mirror!!

    My ex BIL was also born on New Year's Eve (as someone above). He liked it because EVERYONE was partying every year!!!

    And yes, as we get older, it gets sooooooooooo much less important. For me? Just another trip around the sun -- BIG DEAL!!!

  12. baselle Says:
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    Happy birthday, cptacek! Just thought I'd get that in early...Big Grin

  13. JanH Says:
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    Happy Soon to Be Birthday! We have a nephew with a birthday in December and several relatives on my side with birthdays that fall sometimes on holidays. We've always tried to separate the gifts and the day, moving it one day at times, to let everyone have their own special day. You deserve that as well! I did have to get used to the idea that my inlaws didn't celebrate our birthdays that often. Maybe an occasional dinner out or a cake if we were visiting them at the time. Now, they acknowledge them with a card and a call. I can still remember my surprise when my gift was the only gift Hubby got on his birthday when we started dating! Everyone deserves a special day...do something wonderful for yourself!

  14. Tightwad Kitty Says:
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    Happy birthday, cptacek!

  15. tiki Says:
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    You remind me of my hubby--his birthday is super important to him. It makes me sad because he gets as excited as a kid, and we look forward to it the whole month, and I try to do the best I can to make it special--but it never really lives up to expectations, and then hubby gets upset over one thing or another and it all turns to merde. We had a talk about it and he thinks his emotions around it have to do with childhood betrayals and disappointments, and since none of it is my fault, he's going to try not to take it out on me anymore...Anyway, long way of saying that some people just really, really care about their birthdays, and it sucks when things don't come through for you. What's important to you is important to you...that's how it is, and there's nothing wrong with that!

    Oh, and happy birthday!

  16. miclason Says:
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  17. Thrifty Ray Says:
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    My dd3's b-day is Christmas Eve...hense the reason we always have pizza and a party that night. We do our best to separate it from the other festivities...she seems to enjoy it and one things for sure...the whole family is always there to celebrate!!!And she ALWAYS gets to open (albeit birthday) presents on Christmas Eve!!lol

  18. sagegirl Says:
    1198773399

    Think of it this way--my bro-in-law's b-day is New Years eve and he says growing up he always thought everyone was partying for his birthday. He still says that today and he is 34!

    Having a Christmas b-day may be a pain from a gift/celebration standpoint, but you always get to share your b-day with the best holiday ever.
    Happy belated b-day

    From a 1/6 be-day celebrator

  19. terri77 Says:
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    Happy belated Birthday! I'm a December baby too, but on the 5th so it's different. I hope this year was a good one. I turned 30 this year as well.

  20. cptacek Says:
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    Thank you everybody (especially miclason!). I had that one day of feeling down, and then I got over it. We did go over to Mom and Dad's on my birthday for lunch and some of my family was there, and we didn't do any Christmas stuff that day. And they helped me on my wedding stuff. Then we had Christmas the next weekend. So, I had a pretty good birthday, in retrospect.

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